Romans 12:2  Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. An evening at a friend’s church proved to be the needed “escape” from the chaos.  I was able to slip in unnoticed.  I sat and soaked in what the guest speaker had to say.  I was ready to slip out unnoticed just the same.  However, that is not what happened. At the closing of the service, as I was turning to go, a lady came up to me and said, “I didn’t know that you were here.”  To which I replied, “I like to fade in, stay in the background.” This staying in the background applies to my friendships, also.  When a friend asks if I am doing okay, my standard response is, “I’m okay.  I’m fine.”  While yes, I am okay, “everything” is not always okay.  Yet, it is often so much easier to comfort others in their trials than it is to share my own.  As I often focus on helping others’ fan their flame, my own fire starts to fade. As I drove home from my friends’, having had my spirit lifted with laughter, the thought kept piercing my heart, “I like to fade in, stay in the background.”  While there is nothing wrong with staying out of the spotlight, God saw a need to teach me something as I traveled. The lesson came through a song on the radio by Brit Nicole.  I have talked about how I long to go to India.  I have talked about how the lost and hurting have placed a burning in my heart.  Yet, my comment to a dear lady was, “I like to fade in, stay in the background.”  The verse resounded in my heart that I am NOT to conform to the patterns of this world.  I am to stand out of the crowd. Standing out in the crowd is not my comfort place.  I do not have that outgoing personality where it is “knows no stranger”.  However, how are the lost to be found if I do not stand out from the world?  How am I to help the one whose faith is dying?  How am I to help the child who is lonely?  How am I to help the mother who just needs a break?  I must not let the fire die.  I must “Stand Out” … and then test and approve God’s will — His good, pleasing, and perfect will.  I must stand up and stand out! 
Britt Nicole - The Lost Get Found
From the album The Lost Get Found 
Hello my friend
I remember when you were
So alive with your wide eyes
‘Til the light that you had when your heart was stolenNow you say that it ain’t worth stayin’
You wanna run but you’re hesitating
I’m talking to me Don’t let the lights go down
Don’t let your fire burn out
‘Cause somewhere somebody needs a reason to believe
Why don’t you rise up now
Don’t be afraid to stand out
That’s how the lost get found
The lost get found

So when you get the chance
Are you gonna take it?
There’s a really big world at your fingertips
And you know you have the chance to change it

There’s a girl on the street she’s crying
There’s a man whose faith is dying
Love is calling you
Why do we go with the flow?

Or take the easier road
Why are playing it safe?
Love came to show us the way
Love is a chance we should take I am moving out of the way

Don’t let the lights go down
Don’t let your fire burn out
‘Cause somewhere somebody needs a reason to believe
Why don’t you rise up now
Don’t be afraid to stand out
That’s how the lost get found
The lost get found